That might seem like a strange question for some but,ask yourself, “have you been programmed for success or failure“. When you focus intently on the question and pass it off to your thinking faculties, sometimes the answer will surprise you. You see, we all have been programmed, we just don’t realize it. School didn’t teach it and our parents didn’t know.
It all started in the beginning at the moment of conception. Both your father and your mother contributed to who you are. There was nothing intentional here necessarily but part of the natural process of development. Hence whatever your parents contributed, you received.
It’s also important to realize that your parents are the recipients of generations of programming themselves.
Now once you arrived, you found yourself in an environment that you quickly began to adapt to. At this point you have no choice about anything, but you learn as best you can to survive in our new surroundings. You pick up on queues from the environment and combine that with what you were given from our parents.
Ask anyone if they want to become successful, and the answer will most likely be yes. So why are so many people coming up short. Are they being untruthful about their wishes? I don’t think so. But there is something defeating them and most people have no idea of what that is.
Knowing what drives or controls behavior is critical to understand. I’d like to touch on a few examples of failure:
New Years Resolution – Most of us make them but hardly any of us keep them. There is always the outer story attempting to explain the failure.
I’m gonna loose 50 pounds this year – You know if you are 50 pounds over weight, you are a candidate for disease, so your initial intentions are admirable but the result is failure.
I’m going back to school so I can make more money – You look around and notice how the employment landscape has changed over the last few years and begin to have doubts about realistically achieving your goal.
I’m Gonna Start a Business – Even though you want to do just what you said, all the potential obstacles begin to emerge. Even those close to you start raising doubts in your mind with the “how will you…”
I’m going to quit smoking this year – The first thing that comes to mind is the fact that you’ve said that same thing over the last 4 years. Somehow though, it will be different this time. You know the health risks and the expense involved. Still something seems to be working against you.
I presented the examples above to show that although you may have good intentions, something is sabotaging your efforts. Most people usually point the finger at external sources. Some are even reflective. They look in the mirror and accuse themselves of being too weak or not having what it takes.
What they don’t know or understand is the cause of this situation. They know there is an enemy, they just don’t know who or what it is, or where it comes from.
I once worked with a business consultant who told me – If you want to change a situation even imposed by others, you have to take responsibility for the problem to be able to remedy it. Well what he didn’t tell me was that I consciously or unconsciously was really responsible for my situation. In other words the problem was coming from within.
We only have one mind so where it the conflict? Actually, the conflict is between your conscious and your subconscious. This might sound counter intuitive but it is real.
Your conscious mind is where you do your real time thinking. It’s connected to your five senses. You’re free to think anything you want as long as your subconscious agrees with your conclusion. So when you have doubts about a matter, those doubts most likely comes from your subconscious. How can that be, you ask.
Your subconscious mind first of all is a collection habits which make up your paradigm. What’s roaming around in your paradigm goes all the way back to who knows where. Your subconscious accepts whatever it is given (programmed). Also your subconscious does not and cannot evaluate information given to it. It can only call up what’s there.
To become successful you have to reset your subconscious mind so that it is in harmony with your goals and aspirations. You have to change you from the inside and that’s replacing the doubt, anxiety and negative thoughts with positive ones
When it comes to reprogramming the subconscious/paradigm there is a old axiom – Learn, unlearn and relearn.
If it’s true, and I believe that it is, Everything you are and everything you want is already in you. Some adjustment may be required and it’s in your paradigm
Here is a video that can enlighten you on the subject of paradigms and the role they play in your success and failure
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